My goal is not to be long but to be good. 

Philippians 2.
2 then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being united in spirit and purpose.

And how and when are we not united in spirit and purpose?
The next verses help me understand.

3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or empty pride, but in humility consider others more important than yourselves. 4 Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.

When we live selfishly instead of living to do our Father’s will, we walk in empty pride, instead of humility which keeps us from unity in spirit and purpose.

Does this mean I spend my thinking and doing, striving to please my brothers and sisters in the faith, always concerned about what this or that looks like to them?
Does this mean I become a doormat to what others want?
No.
It means we are to be DOORs who open the way for others to see JESUS.
Yes, even our brothers and sisters (all of us) need a closer, better look at JESUS; unity in spirit and purpose will help us.

Is this easy? I don’t think so.  And I think it takes practice listening to HOLY SPIRIT to learn the difference between a doormat and a Door.
That’s it.

Until next time, holy hugs, Kathie