Is there anything harder in this Christian Life than giving up your right to want to hurt someone who has hurt you especially when they did it knowing it was hurting you but did it anyway?
I am in the process and it is wildly hard.
The mind plays and plays the evil they did; moreover, you told them to stop, even explained the pain and they kept on and finally, you are stuck paying the consequences for their sins.
As I said is there anything harder?
And so you pray and you work remembering Scripture and you pray more and at some point, you surrender your right to want to hurt them because you know that is what is best for you and that is what JESUS desires for you.
Does it make what they did right? Does it cancel their sin? Absolutely not!
Does it make what they did any less malicious? Absolutely not!
Does it mean they will not reap what they have sown? Absolutely not!
Does it mean I will not rejoice when what goes around comes around? Actually yes it does! That is how I know forgiveness has come.
Does it mean when I think of what they have done to me, I will hurt less? Yeah, actually it does. ONLY JESUS can work a miracle like this! And I’m looking for a miracle. James 5:16 Complete Jewish Bible (CJB)
16 Therefore, openly acknowledge your sins to one another, and pray for each other, so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
Ephesians 4:32 Complete Jewish Bible (CJB)